Personal reflection
January is coming to a close and the New Years resolutions have already become a burden for some and have been completely dropped by others.
The Gyms are full of the usual die hard fitness freaks that can’t wait for the newbie’s to leave so that they can enjoy the gym in peace.
People tend to get caught up in the tide of changes but by being one of the crowd you also get caught up in their cycles of failures too until in the end you are back to the quick snack and the DVD on Saturday.
Real change doesn’t being in January and while there is no time like the present to make a change, I ask the question, have you a plan?
First things first, what is you goal? What is it that you really want out of life?
Change of any sort is actually very easy and requires at least these two components,
A desire to change (motivation)
A Strategy (Plan)
Most people work on the rewards system and it is good to remember this when making a change.
The change you make has to exceed the benefits of your current behaviour or attitude.
Of course there will be minor obstacles along the way but you negotiate with yourself or you tunnel under, go around, or simply plough through.
A single mindset will easily defeat a mental obstacle and a sufficient plan can challenge any real life situation using a learned strategy.
Often achieving your goal can be a journey that you never foresaw, in fact you might actually be leaving an old belief system behind and taking up a new one.
Sometimes it’s our beliefs that hinder our desire to change.
Perhaps fear of failure, maybe underlying your stagnation is a judgemental attitude that inhibits you from forming good friendships and communicating better not only with others but yourself.
Reassess, what actually is important in your life? You, a partner, children, relatives.
Who are you achieving this goal for, why change at all, unless it benefits you and that benefit exceeds your current way of doing things?
If I was to recall the greatest obstacles people have in general, it is, fear, jealousy guilt and judgement.
Fear might be fear of ridicule from others, it might be the judgements you perceive them making which leads you to judging yourself.
Judging is an awful pastime and is very common. How many times do you see someone look another person up and down with a glance and you know they are branding the person. How many times have you judged someone else and have gotten it totally wrong, leading to misery.
If we could learn not to judge we would all be happier and as most of our body language is subconscious, given out and read subconsciously, wouldn’t it be nice to give out a nice impression of ourselves.
This leads me back to reflection, sometimes what we see and do in this life reflects back upon us in how we are treated by others.
Don’t ask yourself in your own mind, what am I like?, ask others and you might find that you are not the person that you see yourself as. That’s a difficult one to do as most might filter out some things to spare your feelings.
But back now to the beginning, do you want to change a habit, a belief about yourself or an unwanted behaviour?
If the answer is Yes, why wait,
Change has nothing to do with January and everything to do with you.
For personal happiness and success in life, be;
Open Mined
Open to change
Open to Success
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